February 21, 2013

TURNING DOWN THE HEAT BETWEEN FRYING PAN AND FIRE

Genesis 32:1-21

Howard Goldthwaite
Thursday's Devo

February 21, 2013

Thursday's Devo

February 21, 2013

Central Truth

We can't avoid every tense moment in our relationships. But by being honest, caring, and straightforward in all our personal relationships and business dealings, we can make life a lot less stressful.

Key Verse | Genesis 32:6, 7

The messengers returned to Jacob, saying, "We came to your brother Esau, and furthermore he is coming to meet you, and four hundred men are with him." Then Jacob was greatly afraid and distressed. (Genesis 32:6, 7a)

Genesis 32:1-21

Jacob Fears Esau

Jacob went on his way, and the angels of God met him. And when Jacob saw them he said, “This is God's camp!” So he called the name of that place Mahanaim. 1 32:2 Mahanaim means two camps

And Jacob sent 2 32:3 Or had sent messengers before him to Esau his brother in the land of Seir, the country of Edom, instructing them, “Thus you shall say to my lord Esau: Thus says your servant Jacob, ‘I have sojourned with Laban and stayed until now. I have oxen, donkeys, flocks, male servants, and female servants. I have sent to tell my lord, in order that I may find favor in your sight.’”

And the messengers returned to Jacob, saying, “We came to your brother Esau, and he is coming to meet you, and there are four hundred men with him.” Then Jacob was greatly afraid and distressed. He divided the people who were with him, and the flocks and herds and camels, into two camps, thinking, “If Esau comes to the one camp and attacks it, then the camp that is left will escape.”

And Jacob said, “O God of my father Abraham and God of my father Isaac, O LORD who said to me, ‘Return to your country and to your kindred, that I may do you good,’ 10 I am not worthy of the least of all the deeds of steadfast love and all the faithfulness that you have shown to your servant, for with only my staff I crossed this Jordan, and now I have become two camps. 11 Please deliver me from the hand of my brother, from the hand of Esau, for I fear him, that he may come and attack me, the mothers with the children. 12 But you said, ‘I will surely do you good, and make your offspring as the sand of the sea, which cannot be numbered for multitude.’”

13 So he stayed there that night, and from what he had with him he took a present for his brother Esau, 14 two hundred female goats and twenty male goats, two hundred ewes and twenty rams, 15 thirty milking camels and their calves, forty cows and ten bulls, twenty female donkeys and ten male donkeys. 16 These he handed over to his servants, every drove by itself, and said to his servants, “Pass on ahead of me and put a space between drove and drove.” 17 He instructed the first, “When Esau my brother meets you and asks you, ‘To whom do you belong? Where are you going? And whose are these ahead of you?’ 18 then you shall say, ‘They belong to your servant Jacob. They are a present sent to my lord Esau. And moreover, he is behind us.’” 19 He likewise instructed the second and the third and all who followed the droves, “You shall say the same thing to Esau when you find him, 20 and you shall say, ‘Moreover, your servant Jacob is behind us.’” For he thought, “I may appease him 3 32:20 Hebrew appease his face with the present that goes ahead of me, and afterward I shall see his face. Perhaps he will accept me.” 4 32:20 Hebrew he will lift my face 21 So the present passed on ahead of him, and he himself stayed that night in the camp.

Footnotes

[1] 32:2 Mahanaim means two camps
[2] 32:3 Or had sent
[3] 32:20 Hebrew appease his face
[4] 32:20 Hebrew he will lift my face

Dive Deeper | Genesis 32:1-21

Jacob isn't my favorite character in the Bible. He was sneaky, deceptive, weaselly, manipulative, compromising, and conniving. He reminds me too much of myself! But God blessed him in spite of his imperfections. Which, again, reminds me of me.

Jacob had a knack for making enemies and burning bridges. His relationships had constant friction. In this chapter, Jacob has just fled secretly from his father-in-law Laban (in whom Jacob finally met his match by being on the receiving end of a conniving hustler.) As Jacob makes his escape from Laban, he realizes he's returning to someone he fled secretly from twenty years earlier -- and Esau is riding to meet him with 400 men!

What can we learn from Jacob's predicament? Well, maybe if he had been more caring, fair, and direct in his relationships, then he would have a lot less strife and worries about meeting those people again later.

Do you find yourself saying things like: "I can't shop at that grocery store because I might bump into Sue. I can't work out at that gym because I might run into Tom. I can't go back to that church because I might run into Bill.

We won't be able to please everybody and live in peace with all men. (Romans 12:18 is the only command I can think of that starts off with: "If possible . . . . ") But if possible, make friends, not enemies.

Today's story reminds me of Peter's relationship advice: "Finally, all of you should be of one mind, full of sympathy toward each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds. Don't repay evil for evil. Don't retaliate when people say unkind things about you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God wants you to do, and he will bless you for it. For the Scriptures say, 'If you want a happy life and good days, keep your tongue from speaking evil, and keep your lips from telling lies. Turn away from evil and do good. Work hard at living in peace with others.'" (1 Peter 3:8-11, NLT)

Discussion Questions

1. Are your personal and business relationships marked by constant friction? Maybe it's because all these relationships have one thing in common: you.

2. Have you burned any bridges that God might want you to rebuild?

3. Which of Jacob's character traits do you see traces of in yourself?