August 21, 2023

A deep friendship is long-lasting, protective, and filled with love.

1 Samuel 20

Bo Richardson
Monday's Devo

August 21, 2023

Monday's Devo

August 21, 2023

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Outward appearances can be deceiving. God looks at the heart.

Key Verse | 1 Samuel 20:16-17

And Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David, saying, "May the LORD take vengeance on David's enemies." And Jonathan made David swear again by his love for him, for he loved him as he loved his own soul.

1 Samuel 20

Jonathan Warns David

Then David fled from Naioth in Ramah and came and said before Jonathan, “What have I done? What is my guilt? And what is my sin before your father, that he seeks my life?” And he said to him, “Far from it! You shall not die. Behold, my father does nothing either great or small without disclosing it to me. And why should my father hide this from me? It is not so.” But David vowed again, saying, “Your father knows well that I have found favor in your eyes, and he thinks, ‘Do not let Jonathan know this, lest he be grieved.’ But truly, as the LORD lives and as your soul lives, there is but a step between me and death.” Then Jonathan said to David, “Whatever you say, I will do for you.” David said to Jonathan, “Behold, tomorrow is the new moon, and I should not fail to sit at table with the king. But let me go, that I may hide myself in the field till the third day at evening. If your father misses me at all, then say, ‘David earnestly asked leave of me to run to Bethlehem his city, for there is a yearly sacrifice there for all the clan.’ If he says, ‘Good!’ it will be well with your servant, but if he is angry, then know that harm is determined by him. Therefore deal kindly with your servant, for you have brought your servant into a covenant of the LORD with you. But if there is guilt in me, kill me yourself, for why should you bring me to your father?” And Jonathan said, “Far be it from you! If I knew that it was determined by my father that harm should come to you, would I not tell you?” 10 Then David said to Jonathan, “Who will tell me if your father answers you roughly?” 11 And Jonathan said to David, “Come, let us go out into the field.” So they both went out into the field.

12 And Jonathan said to David, “The LORD, the God of Israel, be witness! 1 20:12 Hebrew lacks be witness When I have sounded out my father, about this time tomorrow, or the third day, behold, if he is well disposed toward David, shall I not then send and disclose it to you? 13 But should it please my father to do you harm, the LORD do so to Jonathan and more also if I do not disclose it to you and send you away, that you may go in safety. May the LORD be with you, as he has been with my father. 14 If I am still alive, show me the steadfast love of the LORD, that I may not die; 15 and do not cut off 2 20:15 Or but if I die, do not cut off your steadfast love from my house forever, when the LORD cuts off every one of the enemies of David from the face of the earth.” 16 And Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David, saying, “May 3 20:16 Septuagint earth, 16let not the name of Jonathan be cut off from the house of David. And may the LORD take vengeance on David's enemies.” 17 And Jonathan made David swear again by his love for him, for he loved him as he loved his own soul.

18 Then Jonathan said to him, “Tomorrow is the new moon, and you will be missed, because your seat will be empty. 19 On the third day go down quickly to the place where you hid yourself when the matter was in hand, and remain beside the stone heap. 4 20:19 Septuagint; Hebrew the stone Ezel 20 And I will shoot three arrows to the side of it, as though I shot at a mark. 21 And behold, I will send the boy, saying, ‘Go, find the arrows.’ If I say to the boy, ‘Look, the arrows are on this side of you, take them,’ then you are to come, for, as the LORD lives, it is safe for you and there is no danger. 22 But if I say to the youth, ‘Look, the arrows are beyond you,’ then go, for the LORD has sent you away. 23 And as for the matter of which you and I have spoken, behold, the LORD is between you and me forever.”

24 So David hid himself in the field. And when the new moon came, the king sat down to eat food. 25 The king sat on his seat, as at other times, on the seat by the wall. Jonathan sat opposite, 5 20:25 Compare Septuagint; Hebrew stood up and Abner sat by Saul's side, but David's place was empty.

26 Yet Saul did not say anything that day, for he thought, “Something has happened to him. He is not clean; surely he is not clean.” 27 But on the second day, the day after the new moon, David's place was empty. And Saul said to Jonathan his son, “Why has not the son of Jesse come to the meal, either yesterday or today?” 28 Jonathan answered Saul, “David earnestly asked leave of me to go to Bethlehem. 29 He said, ‘Let me go, for our clan holds a sacrifice in the city, and my brother has commanded me to be there. So now, if I have found favor in your eyes, let me get away and see my brothers.’ For this reason he has not come to the king's table.”

30 Then Saul's anger was kindled against Jonathan, and he said to him, “You son of a perverse, rebellious woman, do I not know that you have chosen the son of Jesse to your own shame, and to the shame of your mother's nakedness? 31 For as long as the son of Jesse lives on the earth, neither you nor your kingdom shall be established. Therefore send and bring him to me, for he shall surely die.” 32 Then Jonathan answered Saul his father, “Why should he be put to death? What has he done?” 33 But Saul hurled his spear at him to strike him. So Jonathan knew that his father was determined to put David to death. 34 And Jonathan rose from the table in fierce anger and ate no food the second day of the month, for he was grieved for David, because his father had disgraced him.

35 In the morning Jonathan went out into the field to the appointment with David, and with him a little boy. 36 And he said to his boy, “Run and find the arrows that I shoot.” As the boy ran, he shot an arrow beyond him. 37 And when the boy came to the place of the arrow that Jonathan had shot, Jonathan called after the boy and said, “Is not the arrow beyond you?” 38 And Jonathan called after the boy, “Hurry! Be quick! Do not stay!” So Jonathan's boy gathered up the arrows and came to his master. 39 But the boy knew nothing. Only Jonathan and David knew the matter. 40 And Jonathan gave his weapons to his boy and said to him, “Go and carry them to the city.” 41 And as soon as the boy had gone, David rose from beside the stone heap 6 20:41 Septuagint; Hebrew from beside the south and fell on his face to the ground and bowed three times. And they kissed one another and wept with one another, David weeping the most. 42 Then Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, because we have sworn both of us in the name of the LORD, saying, ‘The LORD shall be between me and you, and between my offspring and your offspring, forever.’” And he rose and departed, and Jonathan went into the city. 7 20:42 This sentence is 21:1 in Hebrew

Footnotes

[1] 20:12 Hebrew lacks be witness
[2] 20:15 Or but if I die, do not cut off
[3] 20:16 Septuagint earth, 16let not the name of Jonathan be cut off from the house of David. And may
[4] 20:19 Septuagint; Hebrew the stone Ezel
[5] 20:25 Compare Septuagint; Hebrew stood up
[6] 20:41 Septuagint; Hebrew from beside the south
[7] 20:42 This sentence is 21:1 in Hebrew

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Dive Deeper | 1 Samuel 20

We are made for community. All the way back during the creation of the world God saw that man needed community. "Then the LORD God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone . . . .'" (Genesis 2:18a) Community helps to encourage us in our pursuit of God. And more specifically, great friends encourage one another in this way.

In my life, I have experienced the love of good and godly friends—friends who have been with me through it all and will be until the end of the line, friends whose love provides me comfort only topped by God's, friends who have protected and cared for me despite any circumstance. This beautiful image of friendship is a mere reflection of how God loves us.

1 Samuel 20 features Jonathan and David, best friends and arguably the dynamic duo of the Old Testament. Just for starters, the existence of a friendship between them is absolutely crazy because Jonathan would've been king if God had not appointed David. Jonathan basically lost his kingship to David, yet they put that behind them and treated each other equally. Actually, to say they treated each other equally would be an understatement: "And Jonathan made David swear again by his love for him, for he loved him as he loved his own soul." (1 Samuel 20:17) Their love for each other outweighed their love for themselves, and this love is what motivated Jonathan to submit to his friend in order to serve and protect him. "Then Jonathan said to David, 'Whatever you say, I will do for you.'" (1 Samuel 20:4)

We live in a culture that celebrates self-care and looking out for our own good. But God offers us a different kind of life: to love Him and love others, as Scripture says, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself" (Matthew 22:39b). Jonathan and David loved each other as God calls us to, and that is an encouragement to me to live out my friendships like Jonathan and David did—protecting each other and caring for one another.

This month's memory verse

For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.

– Mark 10:45

Discussion Questions

1. Our enemy is constantly testing us and trying to make us feel alone. Like Jonathan and David, we can use our brothers and sisters in Christ to help us fight sin and the lies of the devil. Who is your Jonathan who will protect, encourage, and care for you in the face of trials and heartache?

2. At the end of the chapter, David left absolutely everything to obey God's will for him: "[T]hen go, for the LORD has sent you away." (1 Samuel 20:22b) What is something you are afraid to leave behind or give up that is causing you not to follow God's will for your life?

3. Take a minute right now and pray for your Jonathan. 

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Hugh Stephenson

Good morning, Bo. Great devo highlighting the importance of community. With my co-leaders in Prodigal and my CG I am wonderfully blessed to get great Biblically based counsel. ———————————————————————————————— Amy and I talk periodically about “what if…”. The questions come something like this? -“Coming to the faith late, maybe even very late, do we have regrets about so many years as “dead-church-box-checking” believers?” Answer below. Context- In 2012 the smoldering dumpster that was our family dynamic burst into a three-alarm fire. We got invited to Watermark. We ran to it. We’d do anything to put out this fire. Yet it seemed to burn on and on. I was mad. I had ‘checked all the boxes. If there was a God, why was this happening? You already know the answer. God does not want box checkers. As taught, I have a choice. A choice as to whose child I am. A child of God or a child of wrath. Looking back, the reality of that choice is chilling. We are very blessed to have many Watermark friends whose lives look like the opposite of ours; virtuous and God-fearing. So the questions come… “What if…?” My answer? I wouldn’t change a thing. I get a lot of funny looks when I give that answer. I explain- God saved me from cancer twice. Thyroid at 18. Colon at 47. Both discovered at a random annual checkup. At 22, at the lowest point of my life, I prayed for God to bring me the special person He had for me. Through a bizarre (supernatural) set of circumstances, Amy and I had a blind date a few weeks later. Right away, I knew she was my answer. Only recently, I realized that prayer came on 9/14/80. Her 19th birthday. Between 16 and 55 I drove a car thousands of times when I had no business doing so. No harm to anyone. No wrecks. No DUI. I promise you- God’s hand was on the wheel. After wrecking my family life, in 2013, God led me to Prodigal, re:gen, and men’s abortion recovery. There are many more stories.
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Hugh Stephenson

Mark Twain is quoted as saying, “Nothing is quite so satisfying to a man as to be shot at…and missed”. After wading through so much self-generated toxic waste God has brought me to the land of milk and honey. I have an appreciation of it that could only have been formed from 55 years in the desert. In David and Saul, I see God giving me a dichotomy He presents throughout Scripture: A life led by the Holy Spirit that is focused on unity with Him - OR A life led by self and sin, focused on me and my flesh. Galatians (5:22-23) OR Galatians (5:19-21). David’s faith was innate. It was built by years of adversity, hardship, and suffering. And lots of huge mistakes. He was even “shot at and missed” a few times. In that period God built the man who became Israel’s greatest king and the ancestor of Jesus. I’m confident that if asked, he’d say- “I wouldn’t change a thing.” I’m no David. Not even the palest shadow on my very best day. But I wouldn’t change a thing either. Oswald notes- “The fiery furnaces are there by God’s direct permission. It is misleading to imagine that we are developed in spite of our circumstances; we are developed because of them. It is mastery in circumstances that is needed, not mastery over them. “ The Love of God—The Message of Invincible” Oswald Chambers These two devos of Oswald are two of my favorites. https://utmost.org/classic/the-theology-of-rest-classic/ https://utmost.org/classic/quench-not-the-spirit-classic/
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Hugh Stephenson

More great comments from the notes: https://www.planobiblechapel.org/tcon/notes/html/ot/1samuel/1samuel.htm https://www.esv.org/1+Samuel+20/ “This chapter records Jonathan's last attempt to reconcile Saul to David. The emphasis is on the hardening of Saul's heart that God allowed since the king refused to genuinely repent (cf. the Pharaoh of the Exodus).” “We need to learn, as David did, that, when we try to follow God faithfully, some people will oppose us simply because we want to do God's will. Their antagonism is not the result of our sinfulness but theirs (cf. 1 Cor. 3:19). “At the beginning of his period of flight from Saul, David resorted to trickery as well as trust in Yahweh. As this trials wore on, he learned to trust God more completely, as we shall see. His trials purified his character, because he responded properly to them (cf. James 1).” Lots of oaths and vows n this section - https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-verses-about-vows.html https://bible.org/seriespage/q-scripture-what-exactly-vow https://www.biblestudy.org/question/what-does-bible-say-about-vows.html “Jonathan appealed to the LORD in an oath, indicating the seriousness of the situation (vv. 12, 13). He prayed that God would be with David as He had been with Saul, namely, as Israel's king (v. 13). These verses indicate clearly that Jonathan believed David would someday be king and subdue his enemies, including Saul (vv. 13-15; cf. 13:14). He had come to appreciate Yahweh's faithfulness (Heb. hesed, v. 14), and now called on David to deal similarly with his descendants in the future. He secured a promise from David that when he reigned he would protect Jonathan's family. The Hebrew word hesed, translated "faithfulness" and "loyalty" (vv. 14, 15), is a covenant term of commitment (v. 16, 42; cf. Deut. 7:7-9).” “Previously David and Jonathan had made a covenant that Jonathan would yield the throne to David and support him (18:3-4). Now David promised not to kill Jonathan's descendants after David became king. It was common in the ancient Near East for kings who began a new dynasty to kill all the descendants of the former king, in order to keep them from rising up and trying to reclaim the throne.” “Jonathan's ambitions were not the same as Saul's. He wanted God's plans to succeed more than he wanted to become Israel's king.” “Jonathan's departure from Saul's table symbolized his departure from his father's fellowship.” This chapter reveals that both Saul and Jonathan realized that David was the LORD's anointed who would one day replace Saul. However, their responses to this inevitable situation were opposite, because their desires were opposite. Saul wanted to see his own plans fulfilled, but Jonathan wanted to see God's will done.” “Jonathan ended up choosing David, his natural rival, in preference over Saul, his natural father. His sister Michal had made the same choice. David later kept his covenant with Jonathan (2 Sam. 9:1), showing that he was a covenant- keeping individual similar to Yahweh. This is another evidence that David was a man after God's own heart (13:14).” “The main character in this pericope is Jonathan. His attitude to God's will contrasts positively with Saul's attitude. Rather than opposing God's will and His anointed, as Saul did, Jonathan humbled himself before God's will and supported the LORD's anointed, David. Jonathan faced a terrible tension since Saul's attitude divided Jonathan's loyalty. He solved this problem by putting God's will first. He submitted to the domestic authority of his father, and to the civil authority of his king, by obeying Saul, except when obedience to Saul conflicted with obedience to God (cf. 1 Pet. 2:13-17).”
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Michael Sisson

Re: 1Sam 20:1 Just as Yeshua, the Son of David (i.e. the Messiah Son of Joseph, the Suffering Servant Messiah, the Despised One), would be the object of sinas chinam (baseless hatred) in future, so David was the object of Saul’s sinas chinam. (baseless hatred) Re: 1Sam 20:15-17, 23, 42 Just as David swore never to cut off his lovingkindness from Jonathan and his descendants forever, so G-d has sworn to never to foresake His people. See Dt 31:6, Pr 18:24, Mt 28:19-20, and Heb 13:5.
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Michael Scaman

David will be like Abraham, having a promise (to be King) but would wait a long time before it was to be. God would use the long time to train David, having a sure life in God's hands yet a precarious feeling life where "there is but a step between me and death.” Training will seem strange being on the run with 600 men sometimes living in a big cave. Jonathon and David made a covenant of loyal lovingkindness about their descendants. Many of David's Psalms will highlight the loyal lovingkindness of God. Even in David prayers for forgiveness he throws himself on the mercy of God's loyal lovingkindness. David and Jonathon are living that out in a smaller way between themselves.
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Sue Bohlin

Thanks so much, Bo. The way you introduce yourself indicates you've been through Re:generation for Students? Way to go!!! I've been using the NET Bible translation at Bible.org for years. Their translator and study notes are invaluable to understanding what's going on in the original languages of the text. But today I am absolutely STUNNED by the "color commentary" that informs us how depraved and mentally ill Saul had become, in how he is so ugly toward his son in v. 30, calling him a "son of a perverse, rebellious woman" (ESV) or "You stupid traitor" (NET): "Heb 'son of a perverse woman of rebedliousness.' But such an overly literal and domesticated translation of the Hebrew expression fails to capture the force of Saul’s unrestrained reaction. Saul, now incensed and enraged over Jonathan’s liaison with David, is actually hurling very coarse and emotionally charged words at his son. The translation of this phrase suggested by Koehler and Baumgartner is “bastard of a wayward woman” (HALOT 796 s.v. עוה), but this is not an expression commonly used in English. A better English approximation of the sentiments expressed here by the Hebrew phrase would be “You stupid son of a b****h!” However, sensitivity to the various public formats in which the Bible is read aloud has led to a less startling English rendering which focuses on the semantic value of Saul’s utterance (i.e., the behavior of his own son Jonathan, which he viewed as both a personal and a political betrayal [= “traitor”]). But this concession should not obscure the fact that Saul is full of bitterness and frustration. That he would address his son Jonathan with such language, not to mention his apparent readiness even to kill his own son over this friendship with David (v. 33), indicates something of the extreme depth of Saul’s jealousy and hatred of David." I've been a Bible student for 50 years and I have never come across this kind of staggering honesty that helps us understand how the Holy Spirit has his writers record excruciating truth, especially when it reveals the depth of human sinfulness and brokenness.
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morgan houghton

1.Our enemy is constantly testing us and trying to make us feel alone. Like Jonathan and David, we can use our brothers and sisters in Christ to help us fight sin and the lies of the devil. Who is your Jonathan who will protect, encourage, and care for you in the face of trials and heartache? I guess I didn’t not realize the odds that these 2 friends were against in how Jonathan would have been King if David had not been chosen and things like that. It is so true, he is always wanting us to feel alone and for that I am so thankful for this example that even when the odds might seem to be against you or your friendship, God can still be glorified in that friendship and you can still show love and be loved in that. I am thankful for at least 2 Jonathan’s in my life and thankful for their constant love and support through Gods word. 2. At the end of the chapter, David left absolutely everything to obey God's will for him: "[T]hen go, for the LORD has sent you away." (1 Samuel 20:22b) What is something you are afraid to leave behind or give up that is causing you not to follow God's will for your life? I would say maybe just my reputation and pride, nervous to let that down and let people see who I am, flaws and all. He is such an example to learn from, and such an encouragement because of his example of not having to be perfect to be used by God. 3. Take a minute right now and pray for your Jonathan.
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Amy Lowther

1. God, because we all can look to Him for strength in hard times. God can help us be level to help our friends when they are extremely challenged so that we don’t melt in pressure because we care. 2. God helps me through nerves so I get work done and achieve goals when I actually feel like giving up. 3. Prayer: God, thank you for loving each of us, and God thank you for helping us be strong when we are weak. Amen.