February 20, 2013

DECEPTION AND DIFFICULT PEOPLE

Genesis 31:22-55

Heather Schmidt
Wednesday's Devo

February 20, 2013

Wednesday's Devo

February 20, 2013

Central Truth

We answer to one Judge.

Key Verse | Genesis 31:49

"May the LORD watch between you and me when we are absent one from the other." (Genesis 31:49)

Genesis 31:22-55

22 When it was told Laban on the third day that Jacob had fled, 23 he took his kinsmen with him and pursued him for seven days and followed close after him into the hill country of Gilead. 24 But God came to Laban the Aramean in a dream by night and said to him, “Be careful not to say anything to Jacob, either good or bad.”

25 And Laban overtook Jacob. Now Jacob had pitched his tent in the hill country, and Laban with his kinsmen pitched tents in the hill country of Gilead. 26 And Laban said to Jacob, “What have you done, that you have tricked me and driven away my daughters like captives of the sword? 27 Why did you flee secretly and trick me, and did not tell me, so that I might have sent you away with mirth and songs, with tambourine and lyre? 28 And why did you not permit me to kiss my sons and my daughters farewell? Now you have done foolishly. 29 It is in my power to do you harm. But the God of your 1 31:29 The Hebrew for your is plural here father spoke to me last night, saying, ‘Be careful not to say anything to Jacob, either good or bad.’ 30 And now you have gone away because you longed greatly for your father's house, but why did you steal my gods?” 31 Jacob answered and said to Laban, “Because I was afraid, for I thought that you would take your daughters from me by force. 32 Anyone with whom you find your gods shall not live. In the presence of our kinsmen point out what I have that is yours, and take it.” Now Jacob did not know that Rachel had stolen them.

33 So Laban went into Jacob's tent and into Leah's tent and into the tent of the two female servants, but he did not find them. And he went out of Leah's tent and entered Rachel's. 34 Now Rachel had taken the household gods and put them in the camel's saddle and sat on them. Laban felt all about the tent, but did not find them. 35 And she said to her father, “Let not my lord be angry that I cannot rise before you, for the way of women is upon me.” So he searched but did not find the household gods.

36 Then Jacob became angry and berated Laban. Jacob said to Laban, “What is my offense? What is my sin, that you have hotly pursued me? 37 For you have felt through all my goods; what have you found of all your household goods? Set it here before my kinsmen and your kinsmen, that they may decide between us two. 38 These twenty years I have been with you. Your ewes and your female goats have not miscarried, and I have not eaten the rams of your flocks. 39 What was torn by wild beasts I did not bring to you. I bore the loss of it myself. From my hand you required it, whether stolen by day or stolen by night. 40 There I was: by day the heat consumed me, and the cold by night, and my sleep fled from my eyes. 41 These twenty years I have been in your house. I served you fourteen years for your two daughters, and six years for your flock, and you have changed my wages ten times. 42 If the God of my father, the God of Abraham and the Fear of Isaac, had not been on my side, surely now you would have sent me away empty-handed. God saw my affliction and the labor of my hands and rebuked you last night.”

43 Then Laban answered and said to Jacob, “The daughters are my daughters, the children are my children, the flocks are my flocks, and all that you see is mine. But what can I do this day for these my daughters or for their children whom they have borne? 44 Come now, let us make a covenant, you and I. And let it be a witness between you and me.” 45 So Jacob took a stone and set it up as a pillar. 46 And Jacob said to his kinsmen, “Gather stones.” And they took stones and made a heap, and they ate there by the heap. 47 Laban called it Jegar-sahadutha, 2 31:47 Aramaic the heap of witness but Jacob called it Galeed. 3 31:47 Hebrew the heap of witness 48 Laban said, “This heap is a witness between you and me today.” Therefore he named it Galeed, 49 and Mizpah, 4 31:49 Mizpah means watchpost for he said, “The LORD watch between you and me, when we are out of one another's sight. 50 If you oppress my daughters, or if you take wives besides my daughters, although no one is with us, see, God is witness between you and me.”

51 Then Laban said to Jacob, “See this heap and the pillar, which I have set between you and me. 52 This heap is a witness, and the pillar is a witness, that I will not pass over this heap to you, and you will not pass over this heap and this pillar to me, to do harm. 53 The God of Abraham and the God of Nahor, the God of their father, judge between us.” So Jacob swore by the Fear of his father Isaac, 54 and Jacob offered a sacrifice in the hill country and called his kinsmen to eat bread. They ate bread and spent the night in the hill country.

55  5 31:55 Ch 32:1 in Hebrew Early in the morning Laban arose and kissed his grandchildren and his daughters and blessed them. Then Laban departed and returned home.

Footnotes

[1] 31:29 The Hebrew for your is plural here
[2] 31:47 Aramaic the heap of witness
[3] 31:47 Hebrew the heap of witness
[4] 31:49 Mizpah means watchpost
[5] 31:55 Ch 32:1 in Hebrew

Dive Deeper | Genesis 31:22-55

It's impossible to go through life without encountering difficult people. Have you ever been flat out deceived? Or just totally wronged by someone you thought you could trust? Has anyone in your workplace or at your school talked about you and made you look incompetent? There's nothing like that feeling of heat rising up your neck when you realize that you've been made a fool.

So, what is our knee-jerk reaction? I know mine would be to immediately get judgmental and angry. Our world tells us it's okay to get defensive and judge another just to mask the humiliation or disappointment we feel. An eye for an eye, right?

In this passage, we see the dysfunctional relationship between Laban and Jacob come to a head. Laban was covetous and deceitful to Jacob, who fled with his family. They resolved their strife by making a covenant in Genesis 31:49, "May the LORD watch between you and me when we are absent one from the other." This covenant just affirms what we already know about our God. He sees and knows it all; there is no fooling Him. Yet, He is faithful and keeps His promises despite our sinful nature.

By God's sweet grace, we have a Savior, and we have His Word. Even though others may mistreat us, He guides us to "first take the log out of [our] own eye" (Matthew 7:5). We should take a good, hard look at ourselves and our own motives/actions before judging another, no matter how they've wronged us. Our Father is the ONLY Judge. As Romans 2:1 tells us, "Therefore you have no excuse, everyone of you who passes judgment, for in that which you judge another, you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things."

Jacob knew God would protect him. It's a good reminder that even though we may be wronged by someone and our reputation may appear tarnished or our relationships may have to be rebuilt, Romans 8:31 tells us, "What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who is against us?"

Discussion Questions

1. What does conflict resolution look like in your house?

2. What changes do you need to make?

3. Who in your life can you ask to help keep you accountable to these changes?