August 18, 2023

Comparison kills contentment and leads to jealousy and hatred.

1 Samuel 18 - 19

Marcy Archer
Friday's Devo

August 18, 2023

Friday's Devo

August 18, 2023

Big Idea

Outward appearances can be deceiving. God looks at the heart.

Key Verse | 1 Samuel 18:8-9

And Saul was very angry, and this saying displeased him. He said, "They have ascribed to David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed thousands, and what more can he have but the kingdom?" And Saul eyed David from that day on.

1 Samuel 18 - 19

David and Jonathan's Friendship

As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. And Saul took him that day and would not let him return to his father's house. Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own soul. And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was on him and gave it to David, and his armor, and even his sword and his bow and his belt. And David went out and was successful wherever Saul sent him, so that Saul set him over the men of war. And this was good in the sight of all the people and also in the sight of Saul's servants.

Saul's Jealousy of David

As they were coming home, when David returned from striking down the Philistine, the women came out of all the cities of Israel, singing and dancing, to meet King Saul, with tambourines, with songs of joy, and with musical instruments. 1 18:6 Or triangles, or three-stringed instruments And the women sang to one another as they celebrated,

“Saul has struck down his thousands,
    and David his ten thousands.”

And Saul was very angry, and this saying displeased him. He said, “They have ascribed to David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed thousands, and what more can he have but the kingdom?” And Saul eyed David from that day on.

10 The next day a harmful spirit from God rushed upon Saul, and he raved within his house while David was playing the lyre, as he did day by day. Saul had his spear in his hand. 11 And Saul hurled the spear, for he thought, “I will pin David to the wall.” But David evaded him twice.

12 Saul was afraid of David because the LORD was with him but had departed from Saul. 13 So Saul removed him from his presence and made him a commander of a thousand. And he went out and came in before the people. 14 And David had success in all his undertakings, for the LORD was with him. 15 And when Saul saw that he had great success, he stood in fearful awe of him. 16 But all Israel and Judah loved David, for he went out and came in before them.

David Marries Michal

17 Then Saul said to David, “Here is my elder daughter Merab. I will give her to you for a wife. Only be valiant for me and fight the LORD's battles.” For Saul thought, “Let not my hand be against him, but let the hand of the Philistines be against him.” 18 And David said to Saul, “Who am I, and who are my relatives, my father's clan in Israel, that I should be son-in-law to the king?” 19 But at the time when Merab, Saul's daughter, should have been given to David, she was given to Adriel the Meholathite for a wife.

20 Now Saul's daughter Michal loved David. And they told Saul, and the thing pleased him. 21 Saul thought, “Let me give her to him, that she may be a snare for him and that the hand of the Philistines may be against him.” Therefore Saul said to David a second time, 2 18:21 Hebrew by two “You shall now be my son-in-law.” 22 And Saul commanded his servants, “Speak to David in private and say, ‘Behold, the king has delight in you, and all his servants love you. Now then become the king's son-in-law.’” 23 And Saul's servants spoke those words in the ears of David. And David said, “Does it seem to you a little thing to become the king's son-in-law, since I am a poor man and have no reputation?” 24 And the servants of Saul told him, “Thus and so did David speak.” 25 Then Saul said, “Thus shall you say to David, ‘The king desires no bride-price except a hundred foreskins of the Philistines, that he may be avenged of the king's enemies.’” Now Saul thought to make David fall by the hand of the Philistines. 26 And when his servants told David these words, it pleased David well to be the king's son-in-law. Before the time had expired, 27 David arose and went, along with his men, and killed two hundred of the Philistines. And David brought their foreskins, which were given in full number to the king, that he might become the king's son-in-law. And Saul gave him his daughter Michal for a wife. 28 But when Saul saw and knew that the LORD was with David, and that Michal, Saul's daughter, loved him, 29 Saul was even more afraid of David. So Saul was David's enemy continually.

30 Then the commanders of the Philistines came out to battle, and as often as they came out David had more success than all the servants of Saul, so that his name was highly esteemed.

Saul Tries to Kill David

And Saul spoke to Jonathan his son and to all his servants, that they should kill David. But Jonathan, Saul's son, delighted much in David. And Jonathan told David, “Saul my father seeks to kill you. Therefore be on your guard in the morning. Stay in a secret place and hide yourself. And I will go out and stand beside my father in the field where you are, and I will speak to my father about you. And if I learn anything I will tell you.” And Jonathan spoke well of David to Saul his father and said to him, “Let not the king sin against his servant David, because he has not sinned against you, and because his deeds have brought good to you. For he took his life in his hand and he struck down the Philistine, and the LORD worked a great salvation for all Israel. You saw it, and rejoiced. Why then will you sin against innocent blood by killing David without cause?” And Saul listened to the voice of Jonathan. Saul swore, “As the LORD lives, he shall not be put to death.” And Jonathan called David, and Jonathan reported to him all these things. And Jonathan brought David to Saul, and he was in his presence as before.

And there was war again. And David went out and fought with the Philistines and struck them with a great blow, so that they fled before him. Then a harmful spirit from the LORD came upon Saul, as he sat in his house with his spear in his hand. And David was playing the lyre. 10 And Saul sought to pin David to the wall with the spear, but he eluded Saul, so that he struck the spear into the wall. And David fled and escaped that night.

11 Saul sent messengers to David's house to watch him, that he might kill him in the morning. But Michal, David's wife, told him, “If you do not escape with your life tonight, tomorrow you will be killed.” 12 So Michal let David down through the window, and he fled away and escaped. 13 Michal took an image 3 19:13 Or a household god and laid it on the bed and put a pillow of goats' hair at its head and covered it with the clothes. 14 And when Saul sent messengers to take David, she said, “He is sick.” 15 Then Saul sent the messengers to see David, saying, “Bring him up to me in the bed, that I may kill him.” 16 And when the messengers came in, behold, the image was in the bed, with the pillow of goats' hair at its head. 17 Saul said to Michal, “Why have you deceived me thus and let my enemy go, so that he has escaped?” And Michal answered Saul, “He said to me, ‘Let me go. Why should I kill you?’”

18 Now David fled and escaped, and he came to Samuel at Ramah and told him all that Saul had done to him. And he and Samuel went and lived at Naioth. 19 And it was told Saul, “Behold, David is at Naioth in Ramah.” 20 Then Saul sent messengers to take David, and when they saw the company of the prophets prophesying, and Samuel standing as head over them, the Spirit of God came upon the messengers of Saul, and they also prophesied. 21 When it was told Saul, he sent other messengers, and they also prophesied. And Saul sent messengers again the third time, and they also prophesied. 22 Then he himself went to Ramah and came to the great well that is in Secu. And he asked, “Where are Samuel and David?” And one said, “Behold, they are at Naioth in Ramah.” 23 And he went there to Naioth in Ramah. And the Spirit of God came upon him also, and as he went he prophesied until he came to Naioth in Ramah. 24 And he too stripped off his clothes, and he too prophesied before Samuel and lay naked all that day and all that night. Thus it is said, “Is Saul also among the prophets?”

Footnotes

[1] 18:6 Or triangles, or three-stringed instruments
[2] 18:21 Hebrew by two
[3] 19:13 Or a household god

S2:160 1 Samuel 18 - 19

Listen Now

Dive Deeper | 1 Samuel 18 - 19

What a mess King Saul made of his life! His divided heart ensnared him big time! While he acknowledged God, he lived chiefly from a posture of pride, control, and fear of man. Saul believed that his success as a king depended on his own abilities to influence and control people. He focused on his approval rating and his popularity, especially as compared to David. Comparison! What a slippery slope that is! It delivered Saul right into Satan's traps of dissatisfaction, jealousy, and hatred with disastrous consequences for himself and those around him!

An uncomfortable reality is that our attitudes and actions reveal what we truly believe about God. Saul showed that he believed God's ways were impractical, irrelevant, and actually obstacles to his own plans and purposes for his life. He did not trust God for his well-being. He unwisely looked to people to provide that, and it did not end well! "The fear of man lays a snare; but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe." (Proverbs 29:25)

The sting of the perceived taunting by the women of Israel infuriated Saul. He felt demeaned and threatened as king. But instead of turning to God for His perspective and guidance, Saul took matters into his own hands and zeroed in on David with fuming jealousy, suspecting him of nefarious motives. The results were the evil fruits of hatred and murderous plots.

When Saul's attempts at murder failed, he feared David on a new level. Now he realized that the power and presence of God was with David, and not himself. Saul ignored the opportunities to surrender to God and doubled down on his self-promoting strategies.

Saul's strategies are so second nature to us, but we were given a brand new nature the moment we trusted in Christ for salvation! The Holy Spirit permanently lives within us.  God has His glory AND our well-being in mind at all times! He is worthy of our trust!

"Teach me Your way, O LORD,
that I may walk in your truth;
unite my heart to fear your name."
(Psalm 86:11)

This month's memory verse

For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.

– Mark 10:45

Discussion Questions

1. What do our attitudes and actions reveal about what we actually believe about God?

2. When have you found yourself thinking jealous thoughts about someone who seems more successful in life, in ministry, or in your workplace? How can God transform your way of thinking about this person or situation? In what scenarios can comparison be a positive thing?

3. Ask God to help you notice what you're thinking or believing when you are feeling anxious. This really helped me as I was studying these chapters. Though it's a bit uncomfortable to notice such thoughts, it's very helpful in uniting our hearts to be fully devoted followers! What verses could you memorize and meditate on to remind you to walk in God's truth? Consider listening to Watermark Music's song, "Undivided Heart."

4. How does fear of man shape what we say or do not say regarding truth?

"We must be honest and admit that much of the time we are not living out our faith but are at least partially enslaved to public opinion over truth. And this is the main reason we are silent when we should not be silent." (A Letter to the American Church by Eric Metaxas)

 5. What does it mean that God sent a harmful or evil spirit to torment Saul? Check out this gotquestions.org article.

As we gear up to release even more features for Join The Journey in 2025, our staff team, unfortunately, no longer has the margin to continue to support the comment functionality. We have big things in store for Join The Journey 2025. Stay tuned!

HS

Hugh Stephenson

Q1. I’m taught that the fruit we bear is what the “tell” of our heart is, (Galatians 5:22-23, Matthew 7:15-20). Is bearing fruit a blessing or a burden? That’s another tell. Q2. Erik Weihenmayer scaled Mount Everest. So what you say? He was blind. I heard him speak a few years after. You know what he said? “The view is really overrated”. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erik_Weihenmayer Q3. My lifelong battle with fear and anxiety is way, way less in AD versus BC. But not totally gone. Any significant uncertainty creates fear of what might happen. I “catastrophize”. That drives me to control and to come up with multiple plans to handle any scenario. Prayer would be a way better alternative. More and more I’m tiptoeing towards the truth that “If God wants me to make the flight, then I will.” This from a friend- “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” – Corrie ten Boom. Q4. Less and less of an issue for me. On matters of faith I have learned to rely on a few key questions. Greg Koukl’s book TACTICS is a huge blessing. My favorite Q is “So, who is Jesus to you?” In my first job I lived in a ratty old apartment in a crappy part of Atlanta that was, literally, the other side of the tracks. It was the scene of wild parties, a fire set by a drunk that nearly killed me and my roommate, and a triple drug murder. Nice. When I drove to my office in the fancy part of town, I drove through the wealthiest neighborhood in Atlanta and used those huge lots and beautiful homes to motivate me. Same for cars and vacations. Boy did I feel foolish when I got “there” and had the same sentiment. “The view is really overrated”.
HS

Hugh Stephenson

My friend Rick Irby died last week. He was 64. Rick and I served as co-leaders of a re-gen group in 2015. To a large degree he was the leader and I was the “co”. He was an amazing person. 22 years with a heart transplant but no let off in his heart for Jesus. When I read the news, I knew right away that instant that he was in heaven. How? Rick knew and loved God as much as just about anyone I know. He studied constantly and was nonstop in serving and discipleship. Only a deep and intimate connection with Jesus gives you that much energy for that long. I’m taught that the word we spell as hesed can be translated as “loyal love”. This is the loyal love God has for us. Rick had that kind of love for God and for others. So does David. Saul? Not so much. Interestingly, externally, Saul fit the profile perfectly. David was the opposite. Of the brothers, David was the “youngest”. In Hebrew, “qaton” diminutive, least, little, smallest. If there was a high school, he would have been voted “least likely to be king of Israel”. Same for Paul. Just about the very last person who would take Jesus to the gentiles. Yet, they had the most important thing in common- A deep and abiding devotion to God. Why was David loyal to Saul through all the persecution? https://www.gotquestions.org/David-loyal-Saul.html For all the same reasons. At any number of points David could have killed Saul. Yet, he ran for years and years. I’ve heard anywhere from 10-14 years on the run. Click the two links below and scroll down to see the map of his journey. Map of David’s journeys fleeing Saul https://www.esv.org/resources/esv-global-study-bible/map-09-06/ http://etb-media.s3.amazonaws.com/explorethebible/files/2016/08/DavidFleesSaul-1.pdf How might I respond if I was on the run for 10+ years from a powerful political figure who was trying to kill me…and then I had a chance to kill him? I hope I never have to make that choice. I’m not sure I’d choose as David did. https://www.gotquestions.org/life-David.html https://www.gotquestions.org/life-Saul.html
HS

Hugh Stephenson

Several very helpful insights from the notes, (https://www.planobiblechapel.org/tcon/notes/html/ot/1samuel/1samuel.htm, ESV SB online; ESV.org) Saul's daughter, as well as his son, were protecting David from death. God's care for David resulted in the breaking of strong loyalties. In the ancient world, a daughter's loyalty to her father normally remained strong even after marriage. God overcame what was natural to protect His anointed and faithful servant. The previous section of text (16:1—19:17) gave evidence that God was preparing David to become king. This one (19:18—20:42) narrates the events that resulted in the rift that separated Saul and David. There were two events that were especially significant: God's overruling Saul's hostility against David at Ramah (19:18-24) and Jonathan's failure to heal the breach between Saul and David (ch. 20). "These two events [of Saul prophesying] prove that a person can have a remarkable religious experience and yet have no change in character. ... Special religious manifestations aren't evidences that a person is even saved (Matt. 7:21-23)."[462] It is significant that this chapter closes with the repetition of the saying, "Is Saul also among the prophets?" (v. 24). This derogatory saying brackets the story of Saul's contacts with Samuel and with the Holy Spirit (cf. 10:11). It reminds the reader that Saul had the potential to be a great king, because of Samuel and the Spirit's resources that were available to him. The narrative that the two occurrences of this saying enclose explains Saul's failure. He lost the opportunity to found a dynasty, he lost his own throne, and he lost his personal dignity because he refused to act like a prophet. That is, he refused to put the honor, glory, and will of God before his personal ambitions and pride. The three instances of David's deliverance in this chapter show how God preserved His anointed. He used both natural and supernatural means to do so. Since God has anointed Christians with His Spirit (1 John 2:20), this record of how God preserves His anointed should be an encouragement to us.
MS

Michael Sisson

When Saul first met David, he quickly grew to love him. However, throughout 1Sam 18-19, we see Saul’s love towards David grow cold. At the same time, we see Saul’s children grow to love David, starting with Jonathan and then Michal. Re: 1Sam 18:1-3 1Sam 18:1 (NASB) Now it came about when he had finished speaking to Saul, that >>>the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David<<<, and Jonathan loved him as himself. 1Sam 18:3 (NASB) Then >>>Jonathan made a covenant with David<<< because he loved him as himself. In contrast to his father Saul, Jonathan found a kindred spirit in David and loved him like a brother. Re: 1Sam 18:9 1Sam 18:8-9 (NASB) Then Saul became very angry, for this saying displeased him; and he said, “They have ascribed to David ten thousands, but to me they have ascribed thousands. Now what more can he have but the kingdom?” >>>Saul looked at David with suspicion<<< from that day on. Meanwhile, Saul’s love for David grew cold, because he came to view David as a threat to his ambitions for personal glory and the people’s adoration. In these chapters, we even read G-d dispatches an evil spirit to affect Saul’s demeanor. We want to avoid the temptation to equate these spiritual visitations with G-d setting up Saul to fail. Instead, consider G-d uses them to amplify Saul’s own, all-consuming self-interest, not unlike when G-d “hardened Pharaoh’s heart” in Exodus. Throughout the rest of 1Sam 18-19, in episode after episode, we see any true affection Saul felt for David succumb under the weight of his personal ambition and self-interest. Re: 1Sam 18:11 1Sam 18:11 (NASB) Saul hurled the spear for he thought, >>>“I will *pin David to the wall.”<<< But David escaped from his presence twice. Talk about hostile work environment! Re: 1Sam 18:29 1Sam 18:29 (NASB) then Saul was even more afraid of David. Thus >>>Saul was David's enemy continually.<<< Re: 1Sam 19:1 1Sam 19:1 (NASB) Now >>>Saul told Jonathan his son and all his servants to put David to death.<<< But Jonathan, Saul's son, greatly delighted in David. Re: 1Sam 19:5 1Sam 19:5 (NASB) “For he took his life in his hand and struck the Philistine, and the LORD brought about a great deliverance for all Israel; you saw it and rejoiced. Why then will you sin against innocent blood by >>>putting David to death without a cause?”<<< Here the text bluntly states David is the object of Saul’s “baseless hatred” (Heb. “sinas chinam” ). This is one sense in which David is a type of the approaching Messiah. (Num 24:17) In future, the Son of David (i.e. the Despised Messiah, Mashiach ben Yosef, Jesus Christ) likewise will be the object of the world’s sinas chinam, even unto death. Re: 1Sam 19:10 1Sam 19:10 (NASB) >>>Saul tried to pin David to the wall with the spear<<<, but he slipped away out of Saul's presence, so that he stuck the spear into the wall. And David fled and escaped that night. Re: 1Sam 19:11 1Sam 19:11 (NASB) Then Saul sent messengers to David's house to watch him, >>>in order to put him to death in the morning.<<< But Michal, David's wife, told him, saying, “If you do not save your life tonight, tomorrow you will be put to death.” Re: 1Sam 19:13 1Sam 19:13 (NASB) Michal took the >>>household idol<<< and laid it on the bed, and put >>>a quilt of goats’ hair<<< at its head, and covered it with clothes. Why was there an idol in David’s home? Was it David’s or Michal’s? The text doesn’t say. We do know the idol was large enough to pass for David in bed. Also worth noting is Michal’s use of goat hair at the head of the idol to complete the illusion. As we’ve seen in the stories of other biblical figures, we frequently find goat imagery present when the onion layers of meaning in Scripture include a hint at the rejection of the Messiah Who would be the Son of David and Who would be G-d the Son.
SB

Sue Bohlin

Thanks so much, Marcy, for your devo and your service en espanol!! What the text shows us about the amazing friendship of David and Jonathan blesses us with the beauty of what rich male friendship can look like. Those who try to make their love for each other into a gay relationship are looking for what's not there through a warped and twisted filter. Jonathan can easily stay in David's shadow, but MAN, he was a spectacular guy! The Hebrew tells us their souls were bound together. That's the passive voice; God Himself blessed them by knitting their hearts to each other. He was the third member of their incredible friendship.
AL

Amy Lowther

1. Our actions and attributes reflect how close or how far we are from God. 2. I have been jealous of someone else’s car. God helped me through this as He always presents we are all privileged with the gifts He has given us. Respectfully handling those gifts helps everyone get larger privileges (nicer cars, nicer clothes, nicer electronics,etc). If a person is struggling and you want to get them moving in a positive way, you might compare the situation where they are at and the situation that is ahead of them so they see the value they’d achieve if they move forward. 3. God, help me to do things your way and to be level with life. Amen. 4. Sometimes something might be missed. 5. God sent an “evil spirit” to Saul to encourage him to be a stronger believer. The “evil spirit “ would have Saul thinking about his character and his behaviors.
MS

Michael Scaman

The Lord was with Saul at first and Saul did many tings delivering Israel but not the Lord departed and an evil spirit. Saul went from loving David to making David an enemy, even murderous thoughts toward David and anyone who would support David. Saul was told God rejected him, but what signs of repentance were there? Is there anything that said Saul had a genuine heart for God? Saul would rid the land of witchcraft mostly but ironically seek out a witch to consult the night before his death.